It has been on my mind lately about the need to connect to others. We connect to others mostly by talking to them. With our partners and close friends we can find connection through touch, sharing a meal, listening to each other. Do we need this connection? How can we build new connections with others and how can we sustain them? Can we build deep connections with individuals who do not share the same core beliefs as us? What deeper benefit does maintaining a connection with another person hold for us?
I think if you are reading this article you either think we do need connection with other individuals or you feel like you need more right now in your life. If that is the case than yes, we probably do all need this connection. I see that we often learn from others and use them to reflect upon our own personal situations. It is of great relief to talk to another person and have them listen. They do not need to solve our problems just the release through talking to another individual can be greatly benefitical to our own stress levels.
What about writing in a journal or posting online? Do these have the same communication benefits of building connection? I think they can but they also have different limits that bonding with a close friend or partner does not have. There are different chemical changes that occur in our body when we are bonding with an individual in person that does not happen on a computer. The benefits of a hug and sitting next to a friend provide just as much or even more bonding as talking alone. You know how you feel just talking with a friend through a messanger. It feels different when you are with them in person.
So how can we build a deeper relationship, a deeper connection with those around us? The first thing I think of when I want to build a new relationship or a deeper relationship with a friend is to learn more about them, ask them the deeper questions, the earth shaking ones. What is most important to you in this life? Where does your heart truly lie? What are you most passionate about. What opportunities do you think you missed in your life? What did you dream about when you were young. What makes you feel most yourself? What do you hide about yourself from others that is truly important to you?
When we get deeper we can build that connection. There is a need for vulnerability on our end as well to build these connections. It can be scary to open ourselves up to answer these kinds of questions ourselves. If you are unable to do it then how do you expect your friend to as well. You must give of yourself to get closer to a friend.
But do we need to have similar beliefs as the other individual to be able to build this connection? I think that if we are truly open and accepting we do not have to agree with everything another person says in order to listen and connect with them. Hear what someone has to say about the topics they are passionate about even if you are not passionate about them. They should offer you that same benefit. There is so much to be learned from learning about another individuals passions. Why not expand your own experience of this life?
What do you think about building connections with others? Have you ever built a connection with another person that shocked you? What benefits have you received from build a connection with another person? I look forward to reading your experiences in the comments.
Jillian Carnrick, founder and manager of The Dancing Herbalist, has a Masters of Science Degree in Herbal Medicine, practices as a nutritionist, and is a Certified Personal Trainer and Exercise Is Medicine Professional through the American College of Sports Medicine. The Dancing Herbalist posts on this blog every Thursday. For more of our posts, join us on Patreon. Jillian also presents regular live classes in The Dancing Herbalist’s home herbalist courses online. For more learning opportunities or to work one-on-one with Jillian with her wellness and herbal consultationsvisit The Dancing Herbalist.com.